Glow
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Post by Glow on Mar 21, 2005 16:16:40 GMT -5
I asked anyone who had kids for some advice. I got some great suggestions just thinking maybe a members with kids advice section would be a useful thing
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Prodigal (Jim)
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Post by Prodigal (Jim) on Mar 24, 2005 17:40:13 GMT -5
I can kick in some ideas.
Use the computer as a tool not a toy.
Only install games you want them to play.
Monitor their internet surfing.
Start good habits early.
If they whine---make them do time.
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Post by Fortress-=Of-God=- on Mar 24, 2005 21:45:37 GMT -5
NOOOOOOOOOO NOT THAT ANYTHING BUT THAT GIVE MY PARENT IDEAS FOR PUNISHMENT IS NOOOOOOOTTTT COOL ;D ;D
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Gravity (Mike)
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Post by Gravity (Mike) on Mar 29, 2005 23:48:12 GMT -5
If they whine---make them do time. You cant make me! You cant make me! Nah nah!  |
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Post by lotrsam0711 on Mar 30, 2005 11:27:47 GMT -5
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Post by belletony on Mar 30, 2005 17:49:44 GMT -5
I asked anyone who had kids for some advice. Yea I have some advice. DON'T HAVE ANY. PS: J/K I have 2 wonderful children that I love very much. |
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Post by Peace-=Of-God=- on Mar 30, 2005 23:43:26 GMT -5
Excellent advice, Mike!  I love my three kids, too, and I wouldn't trade 'em for the world. (Nobody would offer it, anyway!) ;D |
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Post by Fortress-=Of-God=- on Apr 1, 2005 1:59:11 GMT -5
You cant make me! You cant make me! Nah nah! |
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Prodigal (Jim)
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Post by Prodigal (Jim) on Apr 1, 2005 13:47:29 GMT -5
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Post by Missionary-=Of-God=- on Apr 1, 2005 14:07:46 GMT -5
hey jim... did you have to walk up hill both ways to and from school and in the snow? j/k our daughter has issues that go back to her abandonment and her days in the orphanage before we got her at 2.5 years old. we thought that we were going to be able to take care of all her problems and get her on the straight and narrow by doing what the Bible says not to forsake..... yep, spanking. it was good enough for me when i was growing up.... so, it is still good today. we found that spanking is necessary but because of her issues (some brain damage resulting from her mother drinking while pregnant) it was not the only answer. we only have one child so i dont know if this will work with other children but i bet it will. because spanking was having a limited corrective response, my wife began doing research in the areas of liya's deficiencies..... she found a book (dont remember name right off) and it explained that, even as a child, people want control. so, that is what we give liya... control over her own choices. when it is time for her to go to bed, we give her the choice of skipping or walking to her bedroom. its her choice. when it is time to eat, we give her the choice to eat what is on her plate or skip dinner (they will not choose the latter too many times) but we also warn that it will be a long time before breakfast when she can eat again. its her choice. when it is time to clean up her toys, she can clean them up with her right hand or her left hand.... its her choice. i think you can see where i am going with this. it has worked wonders with liya. it may sound over simple but to a child that has problems reasoning due to brain damage, it works well.... and, it has cut down on the need for spanking. i think, if you as a parent are willing to be creative with your children and give them a choice, everyone's life will become much easier. it is a win-win situation. you as a parent are getting what you want because the choices you give are guided to an end result. the child wins because they get to make their own choice.... and be in control  |
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Prodigal (Jim)
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Post by Prodigal (Jim) on Apr 1, 2005 15:17:28 GMT -5
Yes Marson, we lived on a weird hill. I still don't understand it but up hill both ways.. I totally agree with you bro, giving children a limited amount of control over the outcome is a good thing as long as the major goal is accomplished how they do it is up to them. Its when you give up that control and allow them to do what they want is when you loose control. Moderation is the key. |
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Post by charlie on Apr 1, 2005 18:55:09 GMT -5
LOL time wont do any thing ;D, you gotta beat the kid, did me good, o wait, maybe thats why im so messed up |
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Post by lotrsam0711 on Apr 1, 2005 23:04:59 GMT -5
My parrents were just unluck, I was born messed-up. I give it a diffrent phrase: I'm a geek! |
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Post by falcon2 on Apr 11, 2005 14:00:17 GMT -5
If they whine---make them do time. Why must you say these things.*grabs his Father and runs* |
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Post by Dream-=Of-God=- on Apr 11, 2005 14:55:25 GMT -5
From my experience, always encourage your kids. Let them know when they have done wrong, but don't scold them for it - they'll only grow up to feel insecure about themselves.
Encouragement and love are the best tools for raising a child, unfortunately two tools that I never got.
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Post by falcon2 on Apr 30, 2005 21:25:38 GMT -5
From my experience, always encourage your kids. Let them know when they have done wrong, but don't scold them for it - they'll only grow up to feel insecure about themselves. Encouragement and love are the best tools for raising a child, unfortunately two tools that I never got. If someone scold me i would sit there thinking about something else waiting for them to get threw with the irritating speach.What makes me do that? i have no idea |
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I love my three kids, too, and I wouldn't trade 'em for the world. (Nobody would offer it, anyway!) ;D
